They Didn’t Go Easy On Me
When you look at younger siblings or relatives even though they are a couple years younger than you, do you ever get the feeling that they have it easier that you did?
I remember my grandmother calling me a retard because I didn’t know how to read at the age of four. She would compare me to my older brother who was a genius at that age and said I would never get to any good private school. She seemed to love verbally putting me down.
When my grandparents jewelry got stolen and their business went down the drain I considered that karma and God was on my side.
When I was five I was staying with my aunt in the mountains and I got sick . I didn’t know what was happening to me all I knew I wasn’t feeling well. I felt really hot even though it was cold. My aunt refused to treat me, I was asking for ice because I was sweating hot and my aunt thought I was being maarte (bitchy).Two days later I found out it was a fever and a toothache. My aunt blamed it on me.
“I’m never going to take you anywhere again. Why you got sick?”
It’s not my fault bitch I was five and it was fricken cold.
By the time I was seven people where telling me to grow up.
“Your a lady now you have to act like an adult”
“You can’t have dolls anymore because your big”
“Why don’t you wear make-up or something?”
“Your not a kid anymore”
“You want to go to the toy store? Wouldn’t you be embarrassed Your so old” I’m seven! WTF?!
People wonder why I’m sometimes bitter and grumpy. That’s why. I feel like a kid but everyone is always reminding me I’m an adult. So what do adults do? Suck dick? I think I’ll go suck dick right now.
I look at my younger cousin who are like 5, 7, 9 and the same family members who treated me like crap treat them like babies!I must’ve been an ugly kid or something. I’m going to do something adult like suck dick or get knocked up now. bye.
Jenn~ Said:
on January 27, 2008 at 10:48 pm
Ya, I know what you mean. It’s weird how family members pick on one child a lot of the time. It’s dumb to compare a child to someone else b/c everyone IS different, geeze~ That sucks that it had to happen to you. I think “karma” is the perfect word for it, haha~
Joni Said:
on January 28, 2008 at 1:04 am
Wow. Your relatives were mean to you when you were younger. I hope your parents, at least, weren’t.
Talamasca Said:
on January 28, 2008 at 1:09 am
You went through all of that hideous torture? Wow. Just… wow. I’m sorry that you had such a rough childhood. I guess all you have to do is move on and let the powers-that-be take care of the rest. Uh-huh, these suckers (of dick WTFLOL) will get karmalized big time. Believe me, they’ll have it coming. *pats Exene on the back*
Yara Said:
on January 28, 2008 at 2:25 am
Gah, I hate when people try to treat different people the same. No one is a carbon copy of another person! Wow, that’s messed up, telling a seven year old to act like an adult. I’m not sure if kids are even potty-trained at that age, let alone supposed to be wearing makeup!
Ahaha, on the moving thing, I actually just got hosted on a subdomain and that’s where I’ve been
Sorry for the confusion :P.
Leanne Said:
on January 28, 2008 at 4:15 am
My god…ok I don’t know your aunt but what the hell?! I hate people who are hypocrites because all of them were telling you to grow up when obviously they weren’t being mature either. Urghhh~
Cynthia Said:
on January 28, 2008 at 5:58 am
Blahhh.
Getting knocked up isn’t really adult, it’s just human, lol.
I don’t know what to say. Isn’t being treated like a “baby” a bad thing or do you mean kind of like… they’re focusing more attention and treating them better kind of thing? I’ve never experienced that but mang, maybe they didn’t like you because of your parents?? Aiyeeee, hard to say. :[
Catherine Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 1:15 am
I know what you mean. Every year when it’s my birthday, my parents tell me to act more grown up and not be so temperamental, because I’m older. But I can’t believe your aunt wouldn’t give you ice or take care of you, even though you were sick. You were FIVE for goodness’ sake! At least in your grandparents’ sake, karma got them back.
Aichee Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 2:19 am
wow. that sucks. im glad my family members dont treat me that way. they treat me and my sister the way theyre supposed to. my mom still takes care of me whenever i get really bad head aches and stuff. im sorry that this is happening to you
Sasha Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 5:15 am
Wow, that is really not fair. Maybe they’ve become less delusional with age.. who really thinks a 7 year old is grown up? It’s not your fault that they are/were morons, it’s theirs. At least you didn’t inherit it
Britney Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 5:46 am
Wow, some members of your family sound really awful! :/
Belinda Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 9:39 am
awww Exene, where have you been. Ive missed your blogs!
I have a younger sister I can relate. I remember having one pair of shoes from 15 to 17, my sister owns eight pairs of shoes and mum buys her a new pair evety two months. Thats just one of the things I can think of.
Aurus Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 12:27 pm
Whoa. Effed up relatives.
Helga Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 1:17 pm
Well. My aunts and uncles were mean to my brother and I growing up, and nice to everyone else. I think it was because we were the best-looking among the cousins. I’m serious. Could also be that they used to not like my dad.
But I find that there’s no use in hating them forever and being bitter about it. I get along with my aunts and uncles…for the meantime
Destiny Said:
on January 29, 2008 at 7:51 pm
I completely understand… because being looked down upon to be a miniature grown-up isn’t a great prime time for a childhood memory… unfortunately, people learn after a couple of experiences. My sister definitely gets it much more easier than me, and I felt like I had to fight for myself through my whole life.
But still it would be your choice whether or not you would use this to have it hinder you, or else take it to empower yourself and prove that you’ve grown stronger without having to rely on what your family members think or believe in.
tiffany Said:
on January 30, 2008 at 6:05 am
I’m sorry that you we’re treated like shit when you were younger. I honestly can’t remember much from when I was a kid.
Jhaye Said:
on January 30, 2008 at 8:04 am
Now that is really sad. Some people do not know how to treat kids. Your story reminds me a bit of the little boy from the book in The Lottery Rose (good book btw). The boy was only 7, but had to act like an adult bc his mother was a drunk and his dad left and his stepdad used to beat on him. :cries: Ahh.
Jen Said:
on January 30, 2008 at 3:00 pm
YES. My sister (8 years younger) is treated like a royal princess and has the snobby attitude to match. It’s really hard to see sometimes for me, yet I can’t say i want her to be treated the same. I really feel for your treatment through childhood. I have some very bitter scares myself and what hurts the most is how they act like nothing ever happened. You’ll never receive apologies for their rudeness and ambivalence.
Jess Said:
on January 30, 2008 at 10:30 pm
I’m the youngest and I’ve spent my entire life being told how great my brother and sister are. Especially since there’s a huge age gap [my brother is 12 years older than me & my sister is 4 years older], so they’d achieved stuff way before me. And it BLOWS. Being the youngest is shit.
Minna Said:
on January 30, 2008 at 10:40 pm
She throws herself into the water and turns into foam. Have you read the original? Or any other H.C. Andersen? I love almost all of his stories, and poetry!
Kaylee Said:
on January 31, 2008 at 4:20 am
Whoa, you were treated harshly
I always feel like my parents are way too easy on my younger brother; I know I did a lot more chores and such at his age.
acey Said:
on January 31, 2008 at 4:28 am
wow, i really don’t know what to say… i wish i could give you a hug right now… stay safe and be happy! xoxo
Martini Said:
on February 1, 2008 at 3:27 am
I’m sorry that you had to go through all that at such a young age. I want my mom to start treating me as an adult more but thats just over-the-top. You shouldn’t have to be compared to others like that because not everyone is the same.
But, If your gonna go do some adult things just make sure you don’t get any diseases with it, that would be bad.
janelle Said:
on February 1, 2008 at 9:36 am
sorry for the word pero tangina bakit naman ganon?! this is the second blog that i’ve read today that contains this kind of stuff! the other one’s the site of miss jais @ lofty-quest.net she’s also been harassed like you
i wonder why there are lot of people in this world who’s found of doing that? nakakairita!
Nanda Said:
on February 1, 2008 at 12:21 pm
It sounds really bad how your family treated you. :-\ And at that age you really care a lot about what other people say to you. And how can people expect you to act like an adult at the age of seven?! That sounds a bit strange. I hope at least your parents didn’t treat you like that.
Benedicte Said:
on February 2, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Wow, you did have it rough, poor kid =/
Cecilie Said:
on February 2, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Oh wow. That’s really weird. Why would someone want their kids to act grown up at the age of 5? That’s just ridiculous! After all, it’s a reason why you call them your kids.
aileen Said:
on February 3, 2008 at 8:02 am
I hope you feel better soon, exene. It’s tough when people haven’t considered your needs when you were younger. But it’s made you into a strong person & that means you can become self-sufficient in the future. You can go on without them!
connie Said:
on February 4, 2008 at 12:14 am
bleh, i’m really sorry you had to go through that when you were younger. i absolutely hate it when there are adults trying to pressure you to “grow up” or “act your age.” acting our age these days is partying, drinking, and maybe getting abused along the way. i really think it’s great when people can maintain child virtues and characteristics… i really loved being a kid when it meant playing with people because you just wanted to play, not because anyone really cared who you were with.
Gwen Said:
on February 5, 2008 at 6:12 pm
I’m sorry your relatives treated you like that. That’s cruel and unfair. Who would tell a 7-year-old to act like an adult? Insanity, really.
I don’t have any younger siblings and I don’t know most of my relatives so I can’t really answer your question. I do sometimes think my friends had it easier growing up.
Chin up, okay? Just focus on what’s best for you. Don’t pay attention to the morons you’re obviously surrounded by.
terin selena Said:
on February 6, 2008 at 3:00 pm
my brothers and sister feel like that about me. my parents were wayyy less strict on me. i’m kind of happy for that though. it’s kind of great being the youngest. my nieces and nephews get away with anything.
Kris Said:
on February 7, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Omg tell me about it! My mom SO favored my oldest brother. He got to go everywhere with her, even shopping for clothes! She wouldn’t even take ME to do that - my Dad did. She took him to hair salons, everything, it was crazy. But my other brothers and I were just nothing to her. And he’s the OLDEST! Not the youngest!
Eka*Mika Said:
on February 8, 2008 at 3:18 am
I think I know what you mean too.
But your parents? They treated you that way too?
I get what yo mean. Coz my relatives/family, gawsh, they treat my little cousins as if they’re some breakable stuff. But I don’t really care. That’s better than having all of their eyes on me.
What pisses me off is the times wherein they’d tell me to act like a lady whatnot, but if I want to go out somewhere with my friends, they’d instantly change their mind and tell me that I’m still too young, I’m still a kid and all. Grr. They should make up their mind.
Katy Said:
on February 8, 2008 at 6:28 am
Wow that sounds harsh, but it’ll only make you stronger in the end. Were you the oldest child?
koko Said:
on February 9, 2008 at 10:42 am
what the…. how mean…
i just hate it when my parents…my mom, actually… compares me to my cousins [since i have no siblings, thank God] … she says how NICE they are, how ANGELIC they are and how DIFFERENT they are from me like they’re kids everyone dreams to have… sheesh, like what they even do is what adults really do….