RESPECT Find Out What It Means To Me
When I was very young my parents (especially my mother) would always give away my stuff without my permission. When you go to the Philippines they won’t let you in the house unless you have a box of stuff for them and since my mom was cheap it would always be my stuff. Shut up I’m not greedy it would’ve been ok if she just ask but she didn’t, instead she disregarded my opinions all together. I think I was crying when I was 8 or something because I was reflecting back on all of the things that my mom gave away that had sentimental value to me. My aunt or a friend of my mom’s asked what was wrong and I told her. She said ‘But she’s your mom’ and then made the ugliest smile I’ve ever seen in the world as if to say ‘you silly girl’.
Oh GOD you don’t know how much I wanted to rip her face off with my bare hands. It’s like she expected me to say. “Ooooooohhhhhhh…I’m so retarded I didn’t know that, I feel better now”
Anyway the thing that was given away the ticked me off the most was my stroller. Yes I’m too old for a stroller but I wasn’t ready to give it away. What I’m about to tell you is from my three year old self point of view.
Some woman came to my house and asked for my stroller. I said no. But she stuck around. I took a nap and she and the stroller was gone. Bitch. I don’t remember but I probably threw a fit. And what was worst was they had promise to give it back. But noooo… they kept having babies. My dad said I shouldn’t blame them because they were poor and kept making accident’s. ACCIDENTS!!! There are no such thing as ACCIDENTS! What her panties fell off or something?! Son of a bitch.
Even now my blood is still boiling when I think about this. Yeah it’s funny to hear a 16 year old rant about a stroller. But I just recently realized I wasn’t only mad that they took my stroller but the main reason I’m angry right now is that she didn’t have respect for me. She took my stroller when I was sleeping after I told her no, what kind of monster does that? Did she think that I was only 3 and I was going to forget? I might have been young but that didn’t mean I didn’t have a brain or feelings. All my life what really mattered to me never really mattered to any adult. When you think you have power over somebody you think that you could do whatever you want. Thats the same way a molester thinks you know.
Respect your elders. Respect your elders. Respect your elders that’s all I hear since the beginning of time. When my grandfather needs use the bathroom and is someone taking a shower they stop, go out and let him in without saying anything. When I do it they stop, go out, let me in and during that time yell at me to hurry up and how much a nuisance I am. Screw that shit. Just because your balls are dragging on the floor doesn’t mean anything to me. I’m going to be old too. What’s so special about you? Life experience my ass. People should either earn respect or be treated equally. Either one of those sounds good to me.
aww that sucked, you should go over there, and take all the stuff she took, and say this and this and this is mine, not yours.Anywho
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ugh, i wouldn’t be too happy if people continuously gave away my stuff though. growing up, my brother had a habit of taking my belongings and selling them
I feel for you girl. Sadly, that is how things go in the Philippines go. Many aspects in the Filipino culture tend to annoy me…a lot!
Had parallel situations.
This really made me laugh:
My dad said I shouldn’t blame them because they were poor and kept making accident’s. ACCIDENTS!!! There are no such thing as ACCIDENTS! What her panties fell off or something?! Son of a bitch.
Ironically, in the Philippines, those who fall into the lower class are the ones who breed like rabbits.
Yeah, taking your stuff without permission is just wrong. Especially if it means something to you. Your culture sounds a lot different from mine. Their totally disrespecting you.
I am completely ignorant when it comes to the Filipino culture but I can understand why you would be so upset if someone took your posessions without asking. I actually have a little rubber duckie from my childhood that I refuse to give up. I thought my mom sold it at a yard sale and I basically flipped out until I found it. heh.
Making accidents? That is a strange way to put it!
It usually does suck to be young. People treat you like crap and demand respect from you. It’s annoying and things really only seemed to get better after I turned 18.
Awee, that sucks that your mom gives away your stuff without you knowing. My mom used to do the same when I was little, especially with all my teddy bears, which I loved.
i hate when ppl take my stuff w/out asking. pisses me off so bad i just start cussing everybody. yeah, bad temper. i know how you feel.
I never got to experience such things when I was younger, since I’m the youngest and all, which automatically made me some kind of spoiled brat, thus I always got what I wanted. But I got to witness this happen to my older siblings. My mom would be giving away their stuff to “less-fortunate” people or even relatives, and from what I remember, my sister threw bitch fits all over the place whenever she found out all her stuff was gone.
I guess what really irks me about all this is those type of people who just don’t even have the decency to work hard to get what they want, to the point that they just go around and expect people to give them something without anything in return. Worse is when they abuse the kindness and generosity of these donors. For Chrissakes, grow fucking up!!!
Yes, I agree! I hate it that we should respect our elders just because they are old! I find that old people often treat me without respect just because I am young and they are old. F*ck that. If they don’t treat me with respect, why should I treat them with respect!
And yeah, they shouldn’t have taken your stuff without your permission. And especially not while you were asleep. How immature is that? You have every right to be pissed.
Wow. What your mom did yto you was… like, evil!!
My parents would do the same to me, but they’d do it at least 5 years later. For example, when I was 5, it was Christmas, and they got me this huge barn set. They gave it to some friends at church (with a 4-year-old) when I was 11.
I really think your mom should have known that you have feelings (and a brain), and if she was gonna visit other people, she should give away her own stuff; I mean, it’s not like she would be visiting YOUR friends everyday, it’s HER friends, so she should give away HER stuff if she doesn’t want to buy anything.
Good luck getting french.
I had this glow in the dark pyjama barbie which I LOVED.. and my mom threw it away.. and they had no more stock left… 
OMG!! Thats soo anonying!
oih.. it took of my comment.
Well, I was talking about my glow in the dark barbie which my mom took and threw.. so yeah.
That is so sad… really. I read about the stroller thing and even though it never really happened to me I do feel really sorry for you. What’s it about a kid that makes elders think they’re superior? And yet it’s US who always has to do the hardest things, US who has to help the elders out because they’re apparently ‘tired’ (they have no problem doing TIRING stuff they love, huh), and if we sulk around and DON’T WANT TO DO IT they just throw a BABYISH fit except with a typical adult glare and loud, scary voices.
How unfair.
Respect your elders is rubbish. Respect is earned, not given because of a sticky meaningless morale.
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wow. I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like to grow up like that. I couldn’t imagine watching my own mother give away my things especially without asking. Your aunt/mom’s friend obviously didn’t put herself in your postition, she was speaking from a point of ignorance. I’m sure it made you stronger to go through things like this.
I’ve noticed that a lot in the asian culture in general. I always hated it when i went to someone’s house and left with their stuff. I would always “accidentally” leave it behind. I didn’t want their crap, and I never stood for them taking mine either. Sorry.. but no. it’s not selfish, it’s just not trying to be generous with stuff that you arent ready to let go of.
I have respect for everyone who gives respect, and I feel that is enough. I think they probably assume it is because I am not from a traditional asian family. Which I’m not, because I’m half white, but that doesn’t mean I’m disrespectful, I just don’t think being old has anything to do with anything except the right to be senile. Which I will take full advantage of when it’s time.
Oo. I’m sorry about that. Im a filipina too, but Ive never heard of that custom where people have to give each other stuff before they get in. I mean sometimes the elders give you gifts or money if they havent seen you for some time, but I never heard that it has to be all the time.
I dont think its like a BAD curse, when family members give birth to only girls. Just that OUR branch of ‘Capiral’ [which is my last name] would kind of.. die out. You know? And of COURSE I want a baby boy cousin TOO. I mean all girls can get a little tiring…
Elders who don’t respect children don’t deserve respect. Fuck age; you gain respect from being a good person, not from living longer than anyone else.
I’m still devastated that my mum gave away my rainbow patchwork coat I had when I was 4.
I hate how adults think kids don’t matter just because they’re young. The fact that you remembered the incident from when you were 3 and is still pissed off about it clearly shows how wrong they are.
God, I don’t think they understand what respect means. Or they don’t understand the reason we’re told to respect our elders is because human beings matter, including old people, not because ONLY OLD PEOPLE matter.
oh, wow, i’ve never heard of this filipino custom before, but it really does not excuse your mom for throwing your stuff without permission. but i think your mom probably didn’t think it would be a big deal, isn’t that what all our parents say?
at least that’s what mine do if i think they’ve crossed the line.
My mom still tries to give my stuff to people. She’s stopped doing it since I started giving her stuff away item for item though.
It might be a mean thing to do but hey, my stuff is my stuff, if you want to give someone something, that’s fine, but give them your own shit and leave mine alone ya know?
As for respecting elders.. I respect people, all people, until they prove they don’t deserve it.
Respect has nothing to do about age, experience or anything else other than how that person is and weather or not they deserve it.
But maybe that’s just me?
I think you have every right to be pissed off.
I really don’t understand why would you have to show up with a box of stuff. I would never take a box of stuff from anyone just to get a visit. Is it tradition?
Respecting elders, I do to some point, but hurrying up just because they’re 50 years older? I don’t think so.
Yeah, I got a lot of the respect elders thing too. It is truly an Asian thing. Other cultures do it, but we are stressed with it.
It’s amazing how much kids remember as they grow up. It’s ironic that when people get to be adults, they forget how much they used to remember/feel and take advantage of said “forgetfulness”.
Hehe, I guess you can make a change with all of this when you get older yourself.
Hmm, I totally understand why you’re upset. I hate when people take things for granted, even though it might be things you haven’t even looked at it years, they might have a sentimental value and even if they don’t, it’s decent to ask before taking them. My parents gave away this rocking horse that my grandpa made by hand when I was little - only thing I have left of him and I never got it back. Sad.
wow thats a tough blog. but i can so imagine what you mean. it’s not about the material things, it’s about the emotional value and the fact she didn’t ask you if it was OK to give away your things… and it is so true, they keep saying respect your elders… i have respect for people who respect ME… and it seems that our elders don’t have respect for us youngsters anymore! it sucks!
yeah i’m gonna be working as a nanny/au pair in US for a year, but that’s only in ‘09
How come you have to give something to someone when you go to their house? This makes no sense to me whatsoever! I’m sorry that you got so many of your possessions taken away. It’s not fair. If anything got taken from me I’d pitch a major fit. Older people have little or no respect it seems. Even when I’m at work I get talked down to like I’m no better than the crap on their shoes.
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